Kate Ferdinand has broken her silence on suffering a heartbreaking miscarriage in July, explaining it’s ‘really hard when you’re grieving a loss that no one can see’.
The former TOWIE star, 31, told how she discovered she was pregnant with her second child on June 2, the day before her birthday, and she and husband Rio, 43, were ‘so excited’ to have a sibling close in age to their son Cree, 22 months.
Kate said she and Rio had told older kids Lorenz, 16, Tate, 14, and Tia, 11, – from his marriage to late wife Rebecca – and she had a feeling she was expecting a baby girl.
Candid: Kate Ferdinand has broken her silence on suffering a heartbreaking miscarriage in July, explaining it’s ‘really hard when you’re grieving a loss that no one can see’
The TV personality explained she initially experienced morning sickness, which suddenly went away, and she suffered bleeding on the day of her 12-week scan.
Speaking on her Blended podcast, released on Wednesday, Kate said of her miscarriage: ‘It was really hard when you’re grieving a loss that no one can see.’
Detailing her journey, she explained: ‘I found out I was pregnant the day before my birthday.
‘We were due to get on a boat and go drinking the next day and I was so sea sick, it was a crazy birthday. Everyone else was crazy and dancing, I hadn’t told anyone and I was so sick on the boat.
Heartbreaking: Back in July, Kate told her followers she had been admitted to hospital after a routine scan failed to detect her baby’s heartbeat
‘I was so excited. Rio was so excited, we couldn’t wait to have a sibling around Cree’s age because the big kids are much older.
‘We just thought it would be lovely to for him to have a little friend running around. The kids clocked on this time so we told them and some family this time.’
Kate explained what happened when she discovered her pregnancy wasn’t progressing, admitting seeing the sonographer’s face when they were told there was no heartbeat was ‘just awful’ and caused her to immediately ‘burst into tears’.
She said: ‘I was thinking maybe it was a girl because I felt slightly different. Looking back, I was sick at the beginning and then I wasn’t. I was a little bit anxious but I’m an anxious person anyway.
Strong: Kate thanked fans for their messages of support after her miscarriage
‘We went to lunch before the 12-week scan and there was blood there and I felt like god was giving me a sign. We were literally leaving to go to the scan.
‘We both tried to pretend it wasn’t happening and it was fine. It was the longest walk ever to the hospital. I felt like I knew and someone was preparing me. I just had to look at the lady’s face. It was awful, I just burst into tears.’
Kate told how she wasn’t prepared for the aftermath of her loss, explaining it was the ‘longest weekend of my life’.
She added: ‘I wasn’t prepared for what happens afterwards. We had planned how to tell everyone. We had filmed the kids and were going to go home and put it on social media.
‘I just wanted to get out of the room but also thought of leaving the room terrified me because I have to go and tell the children and go home and act normal.
Emotional time: Kate and Rio welcomed their first son together, Cree in December 2020, via emergency C-section – with Kate later detailing the ‘traumatic birth’ on Instagram
‘It was a Friday and Lorenz’s birthday on the Sunday and then surgery on the Monday. It was the longest weekend of my life.’
The TV star explained that going into hospital for surgery after suffering her miscarriage brought back memories of having son Cree in December 2021.
Kate said: ‘It was the same hospital for surgery as where I had Cree and the same medical team. I felt like I was having my C-section again.
‘It was really hard when you’re grieving a loss that no one can see.’
Kate admitted she found it hard to look in the mirror have going through the miscarriage because she was given ‘constant reminders of being pregnant’ and her body had ‘changed’.
She said: ‘My body changed. My body hadn’t changed drastically but it wasn’t my pre pregnancy body. And I felt I lot of pressure.
It’s… a boy! Kate and Rio shared a gender reveal video after publicly confirming her first pregnancy with the retired footballer
‘Even now I don’t feel like how I did before. It’s not all about how we physically look but when you look in the mirror and there’s constant reminders of being pregnant but you aren’t it just takes a while to adapt.
‘I cried in front of the kids a few times but it’s important to let your emotions out.’
Back in July, Kate told her followers she had been admitted to hospital after a routine scan failed to detect her baby’s heartbeat.
The ex-TOWIE star explained she then had to undergo surgery, which usually is the removal of pregnancy tissue after a miscarriage.
She wrote: ‘The last time I was in this hospital I was having Cree, but this time it was because our baby had no heartbeat in our 12 week scan and I had to have surgery.
‘We were so excited & planning a space for our new baby in our family, we just couldn’t wait to share our news with you all, but unfortunately sometimes life just doesn’t go as we plan.
Doting mother: Kate frequently shares images of herself and son Cree with Instagram followers (pictured in May 2022)
‘So much to say, but somehow I can’t find the words. Absolutely devastated & heartbroken …but couldn’t be more grateful for the hugs I got from my big(er) babies coming through the door when we arrived home.’
Kate was previously said to be ‘torn’ over her decision to have another child with Rio, 18 months after they welcomed Cree.
A source revealed to Heat magazine at the time: ‘Kate really struggled with having a newborn. But as the kids get older, she’s starting to miss the baby phase.
‘If she does have another child she doesn’t want there to be a huge age gap. But at the same time, she feels like she’s just getting her life back.’
Kate began dating footballer Rio in 2017 and they married during an extravagant wedding ceremony in Turkey in 2019.
Inseparable: Kate began dating footballer Rio in 2017 and they married during an extravagant wedding ceremony in Turkey in 2019
They welcomed their first child together in December 2020, via emergency C-section – with Kate later detailing the ‘traumatic birth’ on Instagram.
Alongside a photo of her bruised body, she explained: ‘I wanted to share this with you. This is me… and let me add this is a much better version of me than the last 10 days.
‘After having an emergency c section, and a bit of a traumatic birth I’ve been completely wiped out.’
‘The happiness has been overwhelming but so have the tears and emotions, I’ve felt like I can’t do what I’m meant to be doing with Cree as I haven’t been able to change or feed him consistently which has had me feeling all types of guilt, for Cree, Rio & that I can’t be doing what I normally do for the kids.
‘It’s a whirlwind I just wasn’t expecting … but at the same time the most perfect whirlwind.’
The Miscarriage Association offers support to people who have lost a baby. Their helpline is 01924 200 799 and they can be emailed at [email protected]
HOW COMMON ARE MISCARRIAGES?
A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy during the first 23 weeks.
Vaginal bleeding followed by cramping and pain in the lower abdomen are the most common symptoms.
Many miscarriages go unreported because they are often managed at home. But it is thought one in eight pregnancies end with losing the baby.
Lots more occur before a person is even aware they are pregnant.
Losing three or more pregnancies in a row is uncommon and affects around one per cent of women.
Doctors believe most occur due to abnormal chromosomes in the baby.
In most cases, miscarriage is a one-off event and people go on to have a successful pregnancy in the future.
The majority of miscarriages cannot be prevented. But avoiding smoking, drinking alcohol and using drugs when pregnant lowers the risk.
Being a healthy weight before getting pregnant and eating a healthy diet can also help.
Those suffering a miscarriage are usually referred to hospital for an ultrasound scan.
If one has occurred, it will often pass out naturally in one or two weeks. Sometimes medication is used to assist passing the tissue or minor surgery can be performed.
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